sometimes it's not yet time to write something

last week i was at my friend’s place for her second salon for her forthcoming book on play and power. as we were discussing, she said explained an experience she had during the writing process that really resonated with me.

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bdsm and what it's teaching me about power

sooooooo, here’s a thing i have yet to write about. it feels a little risky because it’s pretty taboo in some of the spaces i grew up in or still find myself in. that said, i think the reason to talk about it is because it’s the people in those spaces that make the our society all the worse because we can’t talk about the ideas and tools that would help us understand a lot more about what people want and need and how to make it all happen well. and that, i’m beginning to believe, is causing a massive psychic disconnect for many people in our ridiculous little american society.

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#peopleonphonesinpublicorprivate: getting caught

last week, i was watched on the train. there was a family (sounded like they were speaking brazilian portugese. they were standing. everyone else was sitting. everyone one else was on a cell phone. the family chuckled to themselves.

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being in relationship with things both alive and not

last week i had a sprawling conversation with a friend about many things. this is me trying to process in written form one of the topics we covered.

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why i take notes in a paper notebook

this past weekend i wrote a draft of the last essay of my book. feels good to have drafts of all 7 essays. they’re sloppy af, have many holes, and probably don’t make much sense, but they exist! now i just have five weeks until my august writing retreat to fill in the holes and prep to edit the whole thing. oh wow… i’m sidetracked super hard right now!

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