an observation: weddings aren't for the people getting married; they're for the families

so i’m 28 now. at this point, i’m going through my second round of friends getting married. my friends from back home in florida all got married 2-5 years ago (when they were 19-25 mostly). unsurprising for the christian south (especially where people live by the bible and the notion that it’s better to get married so you can have sex while wedded than to have sex outside of marriage). and now my boston friends and friends from college (who mostly get married between the ages of 25 and 33) are getting married.

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eve ewing on vs: the past is not a predictor of the future

eve ewing’s interview on vs (the podcast) is amazing. that show definitely came out the gate full speed. huge shoutout to andrew binet for pointing me to it.

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eating seasonally

earlier this week i went to go look up a blog post i could’ve sworn i wrote about eating seasonally, but i couldn’t find it. i realized that it wasn’t a blog post but a section i’d written in my book draft, heh.* #sweatdropemoji

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immanuel kant's rules for a good dinner party

food is super central to my life and it often serves as a key organizing structure. i’m trying to get better (over time) at eating seasonally and, as such, live in alignment with the seasons. more about that someday soon…

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bateson: on love and difference

another insight that struck me from the mary catherine bateson episode of on being was her thinking about love and difference.

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