19 Jan 2024
last year, i faciliated a two-day in-person BIPOC retreat and one of the topics that came up was (surprise surprise) harm. the particular type of harm this situation was emotional, psychological, and financial harm caused by one staff member to several other staffers. and the kicker was that the person who caused the harm (pwch) was no longer working at the organization. this raised the question in the room about what to do when the person who caused harm is no longer present.
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17 Jan 2024
“is that cedar?”
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16 Jan 2024
while on sabbatical, i read way more than i had in a long time. grad school may have been the last time i read this much, but even in grad school, i’m not sure i read this much in this way. reading academic articles and books is really different than reading like this.
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14 Jan 2024
some time in 2023, my therapist shared with me the concept of a counter-dependent relationship. i was a little shook that i hadn’t heard or thought about that as a concept. when i said as much, he named that there’s a whole range of relationship styles: independent, dependent, interdependent, co-dependent and counter-dependent. it was really helpful in the session and i looked it up afterwards. i found this blog post and wanted to share these different styles because it’s been a helpful framework through which i think about all sorts of relationships now.
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