matthieu ricard: happiness is compatible with sadness

another idea covered by matthieu ricard in his on being interview was about the nature of happiness. and the particular thought that had me shook was the idea that happiness can actually encompass sadness. it’s a fairly complex intellectual journey to get to that conclusion, but essentially it involves a reframing of what happiness is. below is an extended excerpt of a big piece of ricard’s explanation, but for me the key parts are these.

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matthieu ricard: the false dichotomy between spirituality and discovery

in the on being episode with matthieu ricard, krista quotes this section from his 1998 book, the monk and the philosopher:

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what is the relationship between me being well and the world being crazy?

earlier today i was working on my book and editing the essay on love. one sentiment that has been floating around the past couple of days is about the relationship between self-care and care for others. even today i was texting my friend dan in orlando about his prep for the hurricane and i was saying to him that i always struggle with where to draw the boundaries between taking care of myself and taking care of others, especially when things are crazy.

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on what people pay me for when i'm coaching

my coaching practice is in the process of evolving (and maybe always will be - but maybe not). back in july, i had a conversation with my friend nick balug (which is what i call my friend kate’s husband even though that’s her last name, not his) about… well, i can’t actually remember what about. but what i do remember from the convo was two things.

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lyndsey stonebridge: the proper response to a political culture of lying

there is a deep problem in present day america and it’s getting worse. the final part of the lyndsey stonebridge on being episode completely nails it. an extended excerpt is included below and this post is me really just talking through how i heard the conversation.

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